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Written by Skyler Mom guilt has a way of sneaking in quietly… and then hitting you like a wave when you least expect it. A few days ago, my middle daughter started complaining that her belly hurt. No fever. No vomiting. No diarrhea. She was eating, playing, laughing, completely herself, just saying that her stomach hurt. This is also the same child who has immune issues and lung issues, so I’m always watching her closely. But because there were literally no other symptoms, we
Three days before Christmas, our house sounded like winter. Coughing. Congestion. Sniffling. All nine of us sick with some version of the same cold. On the night of December 21st, our daughter (2.5 year old) started coughing. By the morning of the 22nd, she woke up with a low grade fever and a diaper that was barely wet. I had to work that morning, and when I left, she felt cool to the touch. I tried to convince myself it was nothing and was just a fluke. Three hours later, m
There’s a lot about parenting that’s visible — school drop-offs, bedtime routines, meals, and appointments. But there’s another layer that often goes unseen: the mental load. The mental load is the constant thinking, remembering, planning, and anticipating everything that keeps a household running. And for many parents, it never truly turns off. The mental load isn’t just tasks — it’s the responsibility of remembering them. It looks like: Tracking appointments and deadlines
